My Torture story...

it starts with one kid calling u fag. then everybody sees it makes u feel worthless, and apparently it gives them great pleasure. i know what i fells like, Death threats, and suicide thoughts. i have been told that everyone in the world even god hated me, and therefor should die. i moved schools, but running makes it worse somehow, i was still picked on. now i am choosing to stand up for myself and others because it is my obligation. 

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My short story about bullying

My sister's truly beautiful daughter has been bullied through physical and computer bullying. It has gotten to the point that she is going to attempt to switch schools. When I was young and all the way up into high school, I was also bullied. I get it and it sucks. My oldest son was bullied. It's worse for kids today and it sucked for me. It sucks for my sister's daughter and I have NO tolerance for it. None! There is NO reason that a child should be bullied at all and especially to the point that they commit suicide. Everyone is different and to be different is o.k. To be a bully is pathetic and it's truly the coward's way. May we all stand up for those who are being bullied. May we ALL make a difference and stop it. In some small way let's change this. Let's make it stop and let's make this a better world.
 
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We Can Get Through This Together (I'm Sorry This Is So Lengthy)

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Odd one out

When I was 6 I remember an older boy putting my head down the toilet and flushing it, being tied to a tree and food thrown at me, lunch stolen, beaten and picked on everyday until I was about 10. I then became the bully which from my understanding at that time was a way to stand up for myself. When I was 12 I started to realise I was in the wrong and stopped, once I got to high school it got worse. Teachers never listened I was expelled from school for drugs that was planted in my bag from a group of girls who picked on me everyday. I became angry and distant towards everyone and retaliated in a violent matter only to be looked upon as the one who had issues and was put into juvi for my actions. It has taken me years to move on from this and at 24yrs old it is only recently that I have found the only way for me to get over this is to forgive and try to forget. I want to make a difference and make sure the next generation know they're not alone and have people to go to for support when they need it.

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no one understands me.

My son is seven years old. He has loss of hearing in both ears,so his speach is what we call it is baby talk. this started last year in kindergarden,he was very happy to start kindergarden an unlike his four older sisters,I had to stay with them on the first day of school. So when he started to be sad to go I wasn sure why ,It started slowly with him getting off the bus with out his beanie,then his fire mans hat from a field trip was smashed to pieces, a bruse ,and te last straw was bite marks. I talked to his teacher who wasnt concerned at all. I started asking him every day what happend at school,then what had happend on the bus,one of the boys was in 5th grade who lived around the corner,he atarted coming home with bloody noes,always making up excuses for how he got them intill one day he came straight home climed in bed at 5pm and said he was going to sleep,he was so sad,I new something was wrong I sat down beside him and he flinched,I asked him what was wrong,as he lifted his shirt and I say the bruises on his little body,I startedto cry with him he finally told me everything,because he of his speech no one understood him when he tried to tell the bus driver,or even his teacher. This was a group of boys on the bus who would hit and call names laugh,take his things,and break his stuff,the 5th grader was the neighborhood bully,who liked to make the little boys fight against each otheir,would have fun hitting them in the private,throw them off the trapolin,and broke both his scooters. I had t start driving him to school as much as possible because he dreaded the bus,once every week he would bage me to stay home,I even had him chaseing my car after dropping him off. .he was scared scared to be at school...out of fustration with his teacher,who lattr I found out never said or did anything about what i had told her.I went straight to the rinciple, who was amazing he got all the boys from the bus and even got on the bus and advise the kids that anthony my son has a free pass to the office at any time .also talk to the kids about bullying,suspended the boys,he said when he called one of the kids mom and told her what he was doing she was in disbelife and argued that her son didnt do any thing wrong.As the princple explained how her son already admitted it ,she quietly disagreed with their findings. WOW. unfourtunetly the older boy will call him ben was hapeing out of school,so i calledhis mother who never came over to discuss it ,instaed she told all her children that my kids were a few bad names and didnt allow them to be friends wit any one on my street. He finally went to 6th grade another school,but still live s around the corner, my son still has baby talk,hes in first grade he still is suffering from that,he still doesnt feel completly safe at school. that boy ben left to another shoolbut their was a new ben to take his place,my heart goes out to every one whos suffered from bullying,I did as a kid,my brother was and now my son. Change has to start some where and I belve it sarts with our kids. god bless everyone

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5th grade

When I was 11 everyone in my class I felt like I had no friends. People would say I was fat, I was ugly, everyone was better than me, and I should just give up in life. One day i just all of a sudden I started crying at school because I got fed up with it. Everyone was calling me a crybaby that day. I had one friend Her name was Eva Rogers she couldn't do much because she was out of school purposely gaging herself so she didn't have to deal with the bullying. I went up to the office when I started crying that day and everyone at the office was saying that they never thought I would be getting bullied because they said I was super tough and they thought I didn't put up with that stuff. They said I could call my mom and see what she wanted me to do and I said no I want to try to figure this out my self. The next day I was ready to hear what they had to say, and one kid said, "Hey fat cry baby." I said, "Ok can you please turn around because when you are taking to me I can't hear the teacher." he got kinda mad that he wasn't bothering me. I didn't say anything to people the rest of the day. The next day this kid got on my nerves. So I said, "You know what please step away from me."" If you are trying to make me mad it is not working so you can keep saying stuff about me because I won't get mad anymore." He got so mad that I really didn't care about him anymore. So now I have one best friend Eva, also 2 friends named Kassidy and Janette! I had a friend named Calla but she moved away this year and I have a friend who is a boy and his name is Trevor! Now I feel like I can do anything and I grew taller and slimmer so I don't feel fat anymore!!!!! That is my story! Thank you! 

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I still haven't caught my breath.

Ok, so here's the long ugly story. My daughter, Rachael, at the ripe old age of 16 stood up for a girl on her cheerleading squad being falsely accused of being a lesbian. For privacy reasons we'll call this girl Mary. Mary was a shy quiet girl, very smart, friendly but possibly, at the time, a bit socially awkward. Certainly not a crime to be victimized over. Although Rachael and our family didn't care if Mary was gay we live in a bit of a backward thinking town and Mary didn't have friends and wasn't going to get a date to the prom because the whole school thought she was gay. Three girls on the squad were the main players in this ugly sordid ordeal… Rachael told them to stop, several times in several different ways but these girls went on becoming uglier and uglier as time went by. These three girls and their parents were family friends of the then victim, Mary, and all this was going on behind Mary's back. After several attempts to get them to stop things came to a head at a competition when one of the bullies was calling other kids on the squad pretending to be Mary and asking these girls out on dates. Rachael came to me in tears as I was at the event and we decided together to go to Mary's mother. She was crushed and devastated and we all cried.

When the three girls involved realized they'd been found out they turned on Rachael, hard, fast and ugly. They began the cyberbullying assault, videos were made with a person pretending to be Rachael and stuffing cupcakes in her mouth calling her fat… they posted pictures up coloring Rachael's face and teeth making fun of the way Rachael looks. Of course this went out to the whole school. They had a boy from the football team call my house on a three way phone line asking my daughter for sexual favors; when my daughter started to cry the girls would laugh. One of these girls and her mother went into a local tanning salon where Rach was tanning for prom and was witnessed telling the management that Rachael had anally and vaginally assaulted herself with a vodka bottle at a party… COULD YOU IMAGINE ANY MOTHER CONDONING THESE DISGUSTING LIES. Yet that's what we were up against. Of course this went all over the school. 

Now this team is made up of say 20 some odd kids so when a school does nothing to back a young lady, a classified student with an IEP whose made the honor roll, never in trouble a day in her life, what happens? Of course the bullies can more validity with their peers who love this disgusting stuff and this team pulls more and more kids into their way of thinking … leaving Rachael more and more isolated… why? BECAUSE SHE DID THE RIGHT THING. 

I went to the school with 20 pages of computer evidence including eye witness accounts naming the bullies involved and naming Rachael as the new victim and the school did NOTHING. They wouldn't even take the girls involved out of Rachael's class room. It took me 9 months to get an interim superintendent to sit down with us… NINE MONTHS OF TORTURE. Kids would follow my daughter down the hall threatening her but it still took 9 months. 

It was decided that an educational consulting team would be hired to look into all allegations as the interim ( WHO WOULDN'T SIT DOWN WITH US UNTIL THE COUNTY SUPERINTENDENT CALLED HIM AND TOLD HIM TO ) didn't want bad press on his watch. We all agreed that this report would make suggestions for what was in Rachael's best interests. We were excited to finally feel like we were getting somewhere. We were interviewd… the interviewers suggested that Rachael could not mend her relationship with the high school and that she should go to another school in the area during our interview. We came in manned with Rachael's declining grades, the days she was absent throwing up because of the stress so and so forth. The report was written and submitted…THE SCHOOL WOULD NOT GIVE US A COPY OF THE REPORT. So we OPRA'd for it.. NOTHING. WE ARE NOW WAITING FOR THE GRC, THE GOV'T RECORDS COUNCIL TO RULE AND IT WASN'T UNTIL WE HIRED A LAWYER THAT WE GOT THIS FAR. 

Oh, no… there's more… in the meantime Rachael had wanted to start something in her school that would limit the isolation kids feel when they're bullied. Rach was part of a PALS program… peers as leaders… a program you must be chosen for with teacher recommendation. Rachael wanted to use this group of kids to start really ACTING more compassionately towards people sitting alone at lunch or kids known to be picked on. The district at first agreed… there were 3 meetings over one year NEVER LEADING ANYWHERE… the teacher who was chosen to be the liason was told to look up so websites to give Rachael some leads as to where to start… ONE OF THE WEBSITES WAS A PORN SITE… CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS FREAKING DISASTER. Now, we don't believe she purposely gave Rach a porn site … we believe that this teacher went through the motions of looking up a few things, wrote down names but never bothered to check if they were viable sites… like the rest of the district she talked the right talk but couldn't walk the right walk. So what happened… all the research Rachael and I did THE DISTRICT USED FOR THEMSELVES AND THEY LEFT RACHAEL OUT OF ALL POSSIBLE OUTCOMES. Why??? BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T WANT ANYONE TO KNOW HOW HORRIBLY THEY HAD TREATED A 16 YEAR OLD GIRL WHO DID THE RIGHT THING!!! So, they too abandon her. 

FOR TWO AND A HALF YEARS MY DAUGHTER WALKED DOWN THE HALLS OF THAT SCHOOL ABANDON BY THE VERY ADULTS THAT WERE SUPPOSED TO PROTECT AN HONOR ROLL STUDENT WITH AN IEP WHO DID NOTHING EXCEPT DEFEND A FELLOW TEAMMATE WHO COULD NOT DEFEND HERSELF…. WE'VE JUST FILED A LAWSUIT AND BELIEVE ME WHEN I TELL YOU THIS IS THE TIP OF THE ICEBURG … NOT EVEN THE WHOLE HORRIBLE DISGUSTING STORY. 

So, in response what does Rachael do … she asks me if we can start donating to organizations fighitng bullying… unfortunately we don't have enough money to do that on our own to the extent we would want to so we stared a 100% handcrafted jewelry and accessories business that Rachael and I do together… it's called INSPIRED, by Rachael's Mom; jewelry designs inspired by courage. This is our Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/INSPIREDBYRACHAELSMOM 

Please .. show Rachael how people out in Facebook land get her pain and "like" our page. 

We are also on ETSY @ www.etsy.com/shop/INSPIREDbyRachael 

We are trying so hard to do our part and change the face of this issue in our schools … we speak to various parent groups … we would love to speak to yours… as Rachael is now in college I am out with my husband almost every weekend at various Arts and Craft Shows selling our wares so we can make more donations. I've just ordered bracelets and if it's ok with this site I will post a picture of them when I get them. I've also found someone on Etsy who is designing a pin of my Rachael as a super hero, the hero that she is, with one of our slogans: BE INSPIRED BY RACHAEL 2 STOP BULLYING NOW!!! Please support our efforts to help the kids of this country to rise up against bullying and to educate parents on how insidious bullying is. 

THANK YOU FOR READING ABOUT MY RACHAEL.


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on both sides

I grew up in a little village in northern italy. I was half dutch and wore glasses. where being different was not cool. one way to keep up with the pressure was to play along and bully others that were more outsiders than me. it was only occasional, but I remember the awkward feeling of being the one who bullied the easy targets in order not to be targeted myself - in order to feel that I was no outsider. nothing ever degenerated, luckily I was surrounded by enough love and guidance. but I remember. so now I can teach my sons and my sister's kids.

 

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so inspired

it's so inspiring to see how many people are engaging with this movement!  keep the stories coming!!!

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7th Grade

So far, I'm in the middle of 7th grade. There is one girl that always seems to go out of her way to make sure my life is miserable. It started when she met my best friend and slowly started to take her away from me. I told her how I felt about it and that's when the bullying started. She started to call me mean things and would send me mean texts and things like that. Those were pretty easy to shake off. Then she did something to me that I will never forget, she made my boyfriend break up with me. She started all these rumors about how I was cheating on him. Even after the beak up she still wanted to find ways of hurting me, so she kept up the rumors. They got even nastier. She started to call me a whore and a hoe.

But things started to clear up for me after I told an adult. I told my mom, counselor and she talked to her. She never apologized for what she did, but all of it stopped.

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