(The first (brief) part of this post expands on what I said in my comment. The 2nd part suggests prevention-measures.)

I was badly bullied in middle school, from 1957 to 1959.  7th and 8th grades. At that time, middle school was called junior-high school. I'm 70 years old now.

I was regularly, daily, threatened, battered, and assaulted because I was quiet, non-aggressive, and didn't join any groups.

Obviously, if anyone, including a juvenile, committed those crimes against a teacher or school-administrator, he'd be jailed. But no one cared if those things were done to a child.

I can say from experience that continual violent bullying can contribute a lot toward destroying its victim's life.

I was bullied in high-school too, but violent bullying was worse, and more damaging, in junior-high school.

I signed the petition about Upstander as a word. But words won't stop bullies. Force is the only language that violent bullies understand.

Here are some suggestions to stop violent bullying:

I suggest some stronger anti-bullying measures:

1. Enforce the Law:

The laws against battery and assault aren't written with exceptions. As written, they apply to protect children too.

But they aren't enforced in schools, unless an adult is the victim. If a juvenile attacked or threatened an adult (teacher or administrator), the crime would be prosecuted. But if the victim is a student, a child, then the laws against battery and assault aren't enforced.

Those laws must be enforced unformly. Even children should be protected from battery, and from assault (which is defined an immediate threat), even if actual battery doens't occur).

Battery and assault are illegal on schoolgrounds, even if the victim is a child. Enforce it.

The penalty for threatening, assaulting or battering a child on a schoolground should be no less than the penalty for threatening, assaulting or battering an adult on the sidewalk.

...Some years of prison-time.

...regarless of the age of the perp.

2. No Compulsory Victimization:

Forcing a child to attend a school where s/he is being assaulted, or bullied in any way, can't be justified. No child should have to attend a school where such conditions exist.

If there are no safe schools in the area, then home-schooling, individual teacherless study, should be allowed and materially provided-for. ...&/or maybe transportation to a more distant safe school.

3. Separate Schools for Threateners, Assaulters, and Batterers:

People who have committed those crimes have no right to subsequently attend a school for non-assaultive students.

Maybe there could be special violent-student schools. Or maybe the violent juveniles should just be permanently expelled from school.

4. School Policing:

The cost of having 1 or more police on-campus is negligible compared to the cost of bulling, to its victims. Police patrol the streets to enforce the law. Why shouldn't they be at schools too, where they're certainly needed. (But they shouldn't waste their paid time on victimless crimes).

The cost would be a tiny percentage of the cost of operating a school, with its many teachers, custodians and administrators.

There should be both plain-clothes and uniformed police.

Instructors and all school personnel should be required (on penalty of dismissal or prosecution) to report threats and violence, which should always be prosecuted.

In these ways, violent bullying could easily be stopped.

If these measures sound harsh, then try the experience of being threatened, battered and assaulted at school.

Michael Ossipoff

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

CALLING ALL WOMEN!

 

EMPOWER YOUNG WOMEN PROJECT

 “Power to me is the ability to make a change in a positive way.” ~ Victoria  Justice 

I'm working on a project where adults write advice as if they were talking to themselves as a teenager. This could be in the form of a letter, story, essay, there are no requirements and can be kept anonymous. It can be about anything (family, relationships, school, sports, body image, etc.) I would like to have hundreds of women participate-if you or anyone you know would like to take part in this project please email your advice to: [email protected] I hope that this project can impact the lives of teenage girls all over the country, it is an important time for young women to be constantly reminded that they are not alone through all the struggles they may face throughout their journey of growing up.

 

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Hi my name is Malia Alley, Im 15, 16 in 6 days November 23, I go to Konawaena High School in 10th grade and this is my bully story.

I used to go to Kealakehe Middle School. It was nice at first but 3 weeks later it got worse. Some other students would call me names like Slut, Whore, White Trash, Cunt, Stupid Emo Slut, or The Queen Of Emo Sluts because I'm emo and listen to all kind of rock bands and make fun of me because I am either Autistic I have Aspergers, ADHD and other things.

Over the days it got worse from pulling my hair, tripping me, pushing me into the walls, and pinching me to pulling me into the bathroom and beat me badly, so I self-harm and tried suicide many times because of it. It got more worse and worse the beatings and went all the way to 9th grade. nobody knew what was going on with my life so I am anti-social i talk to noone but my best friends Kamalei, Mason, Ryan, Harmony, Carollyn, Taniella,  Kamomi, Sierra, and Alika they know my full stories, they try to help me but nothing ever helps no matter what they try. It hurts when they beat me, but it does not hurt when i self harm. My suicide attempts were all because of them. My first one was because of my ex-step father toby when he came home drunk and would leave my sister guys alone but would beat me so then I tried but got stopped my kamomi. my other ones were because of middle school but got stopped by kamomi, carollyn, and Taniella. My last one was last year when I was home alone and tried. But now Im better since I came to Konawaena High School everyone is so nice to me and thats when I met Kamalei and Mason they are so nice to me.

Hi my name is Malia Alley, Im 15, 16 in 6 days November 23, I go to Konawaena High School in 10th grade and this is my bully story.

I used to go to Kealakehe Middle School. It was nice at first but 3 weeks later it got worse. Some other students would call me names like Slut, Whore, White Trash, Cunt, Stupid Emo Slut, or The Queen Of Emo Sluts because I'm emo and listen to all kind of rock bands and make fun of me because I am either Autistic I have Aspergers, ADHD and other things.

Over the days it got worse from pulling my hair, tripping me, pushing me into the walls, and pinching me to pulling me into the bathroom and beat me badly, so I self-harm and tried suicide many times because of it. It got more worse and worse the beatings and went all the way to 9th grade. nobody knew what was going on with my life so I am anti-social i talk to noone but my best friends Kamalei, Mason, Ryan, Harmony, Carollyn, Taniella,  Kamomi, Sierra, and Alika they know my full stories, they try to help me but nothing ever helps no matter what they try. It hurts when they beat me, but it does not hurt when i self harm. My suicide attempts were all because of them. My first one was because of my ex-step father toby when he came home drunk and would leave my sister guys alone but would beat me so then I tried but got stopped my kamomi. my other ones were because of middle school but got stopped by kamomi, carollyn, and Taniella. My last one was last year when I was home alone and tried. But now Im better since I came to Konawaena High School everyone is so nice to me and thats when I met Kamalei and Mason they are so nice to me.

Hi my name is Malia Alley, Im 15, 16 in 6 days November 23, I go to Konawaena High School in 10th grade and this is my bully story.

I used to go to Kealakehe Middle School. It was nice at first but 3 weeks later it got worse. Some other students would call me names like Slut, Whore, White Trash, Cunt, Stupid Emo Slut, or The Queen Of Emo Sluts because I'm emo and listen to all kind of rock bands and make fun of me because I am either Autistic I have Aspergers, ADHD and other things.

Over the days it got worse from pulling my hair, tripping me, pushing me into the walls, and pinching me to pulling me into the bathroom and beat me badly, so I self-harm and tried suicide many times because of it. It got more worse and worse the beatings and went all the way to 9th grade. nobody knew what was going on with my life so I am anti-social i talk to noone but my best friends Kamalei, Mason, Ryan, Harmony, Carollyn, Taniella,  Kamomi, Sierra, and Alika they know my full stories, they try to help me but nothing ever helps no matter what they try. It hurts when they beat me, but it does not hurt when i self harm. My suicide attempts were all because of them. My first one was because of my ex-step father toby when he came home drunk and would leave my sister guys alone but would beat me so then I tried but got stopped my kamomi. my other ones were because of middle school but got stopped by kamomi, carollyn, and Taniella. My last one was last year when I was home alone and tried. But now Im better since I came to Konawaena High School everyone is so nice to me and thats when I met Kamalei and Mason they are so nice to me.

Hi my name is Malia Alley, Im 15, 16 in 6 days November 23, I go to Konawaena High School in 10th grade and this is my bully story.

I used to go to Kealakehe Middle School. It was nice at first but 3 weeks later it got worse. Some other students would call me names like Slut, Whore, White Trash, Cunt, Stupid Emo Slut, or The Queen Of Emo Sluts because I'm emo and listen to all kind of rock bands and make fun of me because I am either Autistic I have Aspergers, ADHD and other things.

Over the days it got worse from pulling my hair, tripping me, pushing me into the walls, and pinching me to pulling me into the bathroom and beat me badly, so I self-harm and tried suicide many times because of it. It got more worse and worse the beatings and went all the way to 9th grade. nobody knew what was going on with my life so I am anti-social i talk to noone but my best friends Kamalei, Mason, Ryan, Harmony, Carollyn, Taniella,  Kamomi, Sierra, and Alika they know my full stories, they try to help me but nothing ever helps no matter what they try. It hurts when they beat me, but it does not hurt when i self harm. My suicide attempts were all because of them. My first one was because of my ex-step father toby when he came home drunk and would leave my sister guys alone but would beat me so then I tried but got stopped my kamomi. my other ones were because of middle school but got stopped by kamomi, carollyn, and Taniella. My last one was last year when I was home alone and tried. But now Im better since I came to Konawaena High School everyone is so nice to me and thats when I met Kamalei and Mason they are so nice to me.

Hi my name is Malia Alley, Im 15, 16 in 6 days November 23, I go to Konawaena High School in 10th grade and this is my bully story.

I used to go to Kealakehe Middle School. It was nice at first but 3 weeks later it got worse. Some other students would call me names like Slut, Whore, White Trash, Cunt, Stupid Emo Slut, or The Queen Of Emo Sluts because I'm emo and listen to all kind of rock bands and make fun of me because I am either Autistic I have Aspergers, ADHD and other things.

Over the days it got worse from pulling my hair, tripping me, pushing me into the walls, and pinching me to pulling me into the bathroom and beat me badly, so I self-harm and tried suicide many times because of it. It got more worse and worse the beatings and went all the way to 9th grade. nobody knew what was going on with my life so I am anti-social i talk to noone but my best friends Kamalei, Mason, Ryan, Harmony, Carollyn, Taniella,  Kamomi, Sierra, and Alika they know my full stories, they try to help me but nothing ever helps no matter what they try. It hurts when they beat me, but it does not hurt when i self harm. My suicide attempts were all because of them. My first one was because of my ex-step father toby when he came home drunk and would leave my sister guys alone but would beat me so then I tried but got stopped my kamomi. my other ones were because of middle school but got stopped by kamomi, carollyn, and Taniella. My last one was last year when I was home alone and tried. But now Im better since I came to Konawaena High School everyone is so nice to me and thats when I met Kamalei and Mason they aare so nice to me.

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Hi I'm kaylee I'm 16 years old I am get a person that is like every one else everyday I get bullied cuz I'm going to be transgender I know some people are like really or like I don't like u cuz ur like that and I'm sad cuz I almost lost all my friends last year luckily I have 3 good friends Alyssa,Kaylee, and my friend Cass they have been helping me though this I'm so lucky to have them I would have know I deal what I would do without them I live in Ohio so this is my life story and back then I almost got raped by my ex a while ago but this is who I am

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