You never want to cut or self-harm. Trust me, i have been self-harming for about 3 years now and yes, it helps me but i have found a better way to cope with it. Think of every time  that you cut yourself, you are cutting someone who you love and care for more. You would never want to hurt someone you love because that would hurt you even more. Also, another idea is to keep a diary, or journal for the guys. Write down your feelings when you are feeling upset, mad , and even happy! so you can look back when you are older and realize how far you have come. You can all do it, because i have. You can always message me on kik if you guys have one. My username is ca.ssidy, ill always be glad to help. ((: