My name is Kim. I have 3 sons. My middle son is the nicest, sweetest and best in the world. I could go on and on. He's 14 and a Freshman in a "College High School" They called it a Trade School when my ex husband and I went there in the 80's. He has been Bullied for so long. Since 4th grade. He then went on to Middle School, we lived a town over from where I grew up. I decided that the Bullying was too much so we moved back to my home town thinking it would be better. Middle School there was just as bad for him. He decided that he wanted to go to the school that I had gone to in a different town so he could take Culinary, I'm a Chef and he loved to cook with me. Figuring you have to get accepted and have perfect grades and there is a waiting list to get in if you don't get picked right away there would be no Bullying there. Well we thought wrong. He got straight A's to get in and went through his exploratories and and got his first choice, Culinary and he loves it. Since the beginning of school there, last week of August he has been bullied so much. I started with reporting it to his Guidance Counselor, she did nothing. I went to the teachers and they changed around seats, this did not work because they don't pay attention to student not in their assigned seats. I had 2 of his classes switched but this didn't work either as the kids who are doing this are many. I've called the Superintendent and received no phone call back. I called again and gave a timeline of a week or I would go to the police. I called the Principal, I called the Dean... meanwhile my son is being told to kill himself, having kids pick him up out of his seat by his sweatshirt, having his chair pulled out from under him and hit his tailbone on the cement floor. He was reporting it but has stopped. He's got F's because he is constantly worrying of his surroundings. I finally took him to the Police Department and we reported it to a Detective who deal directly with this. The Detective typed up his report and in 2 hours I received a call from him to set up a meeting. His response to me after me holding him up for an hour and a half was that Bullying is not illegal... My reply was that harassment is. He informed me that my son will probably stay back because of his grades. this upset me because he is supposed to stay after 3 times a week yet is afraid to because one of the Juniors in his Culinary happens to be one of the kids who tells him to kill himself also the few times he did stay the kid next to him, who again wasn't sitting in his assigned seat kept reaching over and deleting all the work he was doing. I was told by one of his IEP team members that she would stay with him but never has. Also I was told he was put in for an Adjustments Counselor, this never was followed through. I put him in outside counseling. He is so sad, I hardly see a smile on his face anymore. he wakes up with a belly ache and comes home and wants to just sleep. Not one of the people in this school is doing their jobs or helping. The Dean CC'd me an email to all of his teachers that basically said that my son and myself "claim" that he is being bullied and to keep an eye out as sometimes he reports it but most of the time he doesn't. That to me says that he doesn't believe us. I know my son and he is the one out of the 3 that doesn't lie, not about this stuff but still he doesn't lie. He wants to transfer to our hometown High School but says it's still going to happen any way. He won't say anything anymore because he said "what's the point"... This school like every other school has a No Bullying Policy 5 pages long specifically stating that it's a privilege to be here and students work hard to be in here, there's a waiting list and any offenders will be kicked out letting someone on the list get their opportunity. I don't know what else to do. My heart breaks every second of the day and night. I'm constantly worried about him in school and constantly worried about what is going on in his mind. I wish this school would show the Movie. We watched it when it came out and all of us cried for days, I still get upset thinking about it.
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