Dani thank you so much for reaching out! It sounds like you’re doing way better, which is awesome! I myself was bullied really badly as a kid, and it still affects me today. It can be hard to overcome, but it does get way better! Have you thought about taking action to make sure no other kid at that school feels the way you did? Here are some ways you can take action:

1.) Check out our tools and resources here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/tools_and_resources to find ways of taking action
2.) host a screening of BULLY in your home and invite people you feel safe with, then have a meaningful discussion afterward, using the tools and resources for fuel. Do this here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/calendar
3.) see if the school would be interested in using our Educators DVD and Toolkit to transform your school’s culture from one of hurt and exclusion to one of empathy and action. you can find one sympathetic teacher to ask about this, or bring it to the principal. they can order the kit for $29.99 here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/preorder
4.) Join our Facebook page to find inspiration and community.

Above all, be sure you’re regularly reaching out to others who can support you and remind you of how strong and awesome you are! Thanks for becoming a part of this movement by sharing your story.

Best,
Rose
The BULLY Project

Sydney, I’m so sorry to hear that the situation couldn’t be fixed. Constantly being bullied like this can be so painful. I was very badly bullied for many years too, and was afraid to go to school, so I understand. There are things you can do though! Here are a few ways you can take action to change the situation at the school so you feel safe going back:

1.) Check out our tools and resources here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/tools_and_resources to find ways of taking action
2.) host a screening of BULLY in your home and invite people you feel safe with, then have a meaningful discussion afterward, using the tools and resources for fuel. Do this here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/calendar
3.) see if your school would be interested in using our Educators DVD and Toolkit to transform the school’s culture from one of hurt and exclusion to one of empathy and action. you can find one sympathetic teacher to ask about this, or bring it to the principal. and maybe see if your parents will go in with you to talk to them about it. they can order the kit for $29.99 here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/preorder
4.) Join our Facebook page to find inspiration and community. Find it at @bullymovie

Also, have you seen this video? http://www.upworthy.com/bullies-called-him-pork-chop-he-took-that-pain-with-him-and-then-cooked-it-into

Above all, be sure you’re regularly reaching out to others who can support you and remind you of how strong and awesome you are! Thanks for becoming a part of this movement by sharing your story.

Best,
Rose
The BULLY Project

Hi Maxima, thanks so much for reaching out and sharing your story. I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through. I myself was very badly bullied as a kid, which still affects me today, both in good ways and in challenging ways. It’s made me really strong, wise and loving. It’s why I work for The BULLY Project, which has been really rewarding and fulfilling.

Luckily though, it does get better. Now, as an adult, I have an amazing community of friends who love me and remind me how awesome I am whenever I forget or can’t see it. I didn’t get an idea from what you wrote as to what age you are now, but there are plenty of things you can do to take action in your community.

Here are some ideas of things you can do:

1.) Check out our tools and resources here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/tools_and_resources to find ways of taking action 2.) host a screening of BULLY in your home and invite people you feel close with, then have a meaningful discussion afterward, using the tools and resources for fuel. Do this here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/calendar
3.) see if a local school (your school?) would be interested in using our Educators DVD and Toolkit to transform their culture from one of hurt and exclusion to one of empathy and action. you can bring it to the principal or to one sympathetic teacher. they can order the kit for $29.99 here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/preorder

Above all, be sure you’re regularly reaching out to others who can support you and remind you of how strong and awesome you are! Thanks for becoming a part of this movement by sharing your story.

Best,
Rose
The BULLY Project

Hi Gaby, this is Rose from The BULLY Project team. First of all, thank you so much for reaching out to us. That shows huge courage. Reaching out is NOT easy. I’m so so sorry for everything that’s happened to you. I want you to know that you’re NOT alone. We have a whole community of people here to support you. Have you been on our Facebook page? It’s turned into a thriving community where people find support and community.

Here are a few ideas of ways you can take action to change your situation:

1.) It might be helpful for you to reach out to http://121help.me to speak to one of their counselors for free.
2.) Check out our tools and resources here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/tools_and_resources to find ways of taking action. I’m so sorry your parents weren’t more supportive, that’s really hard, but I know it’s hard for parents to know what to do in these situations. It might be good to share the “tools and resources for parents” page with them as well. Maybe have an open, honest discussion with them saying, “I don’t want things to continue the way they are at school, can we brainstorm together about what we can do?”
3.) Work with your parents to host a screening of BULLY in your home and invite people who care about you, then have a meaningful discussion afterward, using the tools and resources for fuel. Do this here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/calendar
4.) see if your school would be interested in using our Educators DVD and Toolkit to transform your school’s culture from one of hurt and exclusion to one of empathy and action. Maybe you can find one teacher who would be open to helping you make this happen, or bring it to the principal. They can order the kit for $29.99 here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/preorder

It does get better. I myself experienced really bad bullying for many years, and it still affects me today, but I now have an amazing community of friends who constantly remind me how awesome I am, even when I can’t see it, and I have to say, helping others has really been healing for me. That’s why I work on The BULLY Project. Maybe working to bring this to your school could be a powerful way of not only lifting yourself out of your circumstances but help others do the same while you’re at it?

Above all, be sure you’re regularly reaching out to others who can support you! Thanks for becoming a part of this movement by sharing your story. If you have any questions about how to take action, feel free to email us at [email protected]

Best,
Rose
The BULLY Project

Kyle, thank you so much for your inspiring words and for sharing your story. Would you be interested in taking action in your community to make sure kids feel the compassion and love you speak of? If so, here are some ideas:

1.) Check out our tools and resources to find ways to take action here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/tools_and_resources
2.) host a screening of BULLY in your home and invite people you feel safe with, then have a meaningful discussion afterward, using the tools and resources for fuel. Do this here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/calendar
3.) see if a school in your community would be interested in using our Educators DVD and Toolkit to transform the school’s culture from one of hurt and exclusion to one of empathy and action. You can find one sympathetic teacher to ask about this, or bring it to the principal, or even the local superintendent. they can order the kit for $29.99 here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/preorder

Thanks for becoming a part of this movement by sharing your story!

Best,
Rose
The BULLY Project

Hi Kelcie! I’m so sorry you felt so alone and that you were being treated so badly. No one should have to experience what you’ve gone through. Thank you so much for reaching out. I encourage you to continue to reach out to others who can support you in person as well as online. You’re not alone! Have you checked out our Facebook page? Many people find support there, as it’s turned into an amazing community where people step up to help each other. We’re trying to end bullying in our generation, and we can’t do it without the help of people like you! You have the power to change your school and your community! Here are some suggestions of what you can do:

1.) Check out our tools and resources here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/tools_and_resources to find ways of taking action. 2.) host a screening of BULLY in your home and invite people you feel safe with, then have a meaningful discussion afterward, using the tools and resources for fuel. Do this here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/calendar
3.) see if your school would be interested in using our Educators DVD and Toolkit to transform your school’s culture from one of hurt and exclusion to one of empathy and action. you can find one sympathetic teacher to ask about this, or bring it to the principal. they can order the kit for $29.99 here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/preorder

Above all, be sure you’re regularly reaching out to others who can support you! Thanks for becoming a part of this movement by sharing your story.

Best,
Rose
The BULLY Project

Hi Greta, thanks so much for sharing your story and reaching out. I’m so glad to hear you’re no longer hurting yourself. Is the bullying still going on? If so, there’s a lot you can do to transform your school community so that everyone feels safe and respected. Here are some suggestions:

1.) Check out our tools and resources here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/tools_and_resources to find ways of taking action 2.) host a screening of BULLY in your home and invite people you feel safe with, then have a meaningful discussion afterward, using the tools and resources for fuel. Do this here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/calendar
3.) see if your school would be interested in using our Educators DVD and Toolkit to transform your school’s culture from one of hurt and exclusion to one of empathy and action. you can find one sympathetic teacher to ask about this, or bring it to the principal. they can order the kit for $29.99 here: http://www.thebullyproject.com/preorder

Above all, be sure you’re regularly reaching out to others who can support you! Thanks for becoming a part of this movement by sharing your story.

Best,
Rose
The BULLY Project

Amy, thank you so much for sharing your story and your thoughts. Those of us who work at The BULLY Project have our own histories with bullying, which is what motivates us to work here. I myself can very much relate to your story and how it all affected you. It definitely does have a lasting effect, but I’m happy to see that you understand that the effects aren’t all bad. In my own personal experience, I know it’s made me far more strong, wise, resilient and loving than I ever would have been had I not been bullied. It forced me to dig deep, to really work on myself, to think long and hard about my values and how I want to be with people, and gave me an overall level of depth that can’t be taught, it has to come through experience. I’m guessing you can relate. One book that’s really helped me immensely, that I’ve read over and over again, is Finding Your Own North Star, by Martha Beck. I would suggest you check it out! The other thing I’ve found most helpful in overcoming some of the long-term negative effects is doing something to help others on a regular basis. I can’t tell you how powerful and healing this is. It sounds like that’s what you’ve done with animals! That’s great! I wonder if you might also want to consider organizing/hosting a screening of BULLY, either in your own home, in your community somewhere, or at a local school? We’re working toward causing a tipping point that ends bullying in America, and we’re getting close, but we need the help of people like you who can step up and take action by bringing this to their communities. Click here to host your own screening: http://www.thebullyproject.com/calendar and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks so much!
Best,
Rose
The BULLY Project

Also Anna, I didn’t get a sense of exactly how old you are, so I’m wondering, are you in high school? If so there are other things you can do that I can suggest. Let me know.

That’s awesome Jory! Keep up the good work and let us know how it all goes and if you have any questions. What you’re doing is really important. You’re totally a part of this movement!

All the best,
Rose
The Bully Project

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